Why are boys so protective over girls?

via Ask a Fat Guy by Andy on 4/21/11

Veronica from the land of Wichita, Kansas(s) writes:

Why are boys so protective over girls?

Because of evolution, obviously. You need to protect your woman, lest Ogg over in the next cave get his grubby hands with its jagged, broken fingernails all over her supple animal hide-covered loins.

Women are (and we’re speaking in broad generalizations here — while we generalize broads, I suppose) less physically robust than your average man. Women have evolved over the millennia  (all six of them, amirite Christians? — ah, but I already lost you with the “evolve” thing) to be good parents, good gatherers, nurturers, soft hips, nice hair, look good in a corset, high heels, and so forth, whereas men have evolved to be strong enough to protect their family, good enough hunters to provide for their family, and good at hooking up the stereo.

It’s all down to testosterone and evolution. It’s an in-built impulse to protect your lady. It’s an in-built impulse to protect any lady. But if she doesn’t throw you at least a pity flirt afterward, then she’s probably a stuck up skank.

The fact that you used the words “boys” and “girls” rather than “men” and “women” leads me to assume that you’re not of an advanced age. Perhaps you’re still in school? In which case, all those things I said are true, but multiplied several times by the raging ass-kicking hormones and sex hormones (or as scientists call them, “hornymones”) coursing through the bloodstream of every male your age.

But not to worry, because it gets better, Veronica! Why, I’m 30 and I already couldn’t possibly be bothered to move myself to protect my woman. “Is she in danger? …eh. She can take care of herself. She’s an ‘independent woman,’ after all.” So you’ve got that to look forward to.

Gabrielle Union Defends Rihanna’s “Man Down” Video

Gabrielle Union has been very open about her status as a rape survivor. Last week she was gathering ideas from her Twitter followers about how we can better address violence against women and children.

During the conversation one of the followers asked what she thought of Rhianna’s “Man Down” video.

Gabrielle tweeted that she hadn’t seen it at the time but said she would let everyone know when she had.

Days later, she tweeted this: Saw ‘Man Down’ by @rihanna. Every victim/survivor of rape is unique, including how they THINK they’d like justice 2 be handed out.”

Later she tweeted that she tried to shoot her rapist during her rape but she missed.

See what else Gabrielle had to say about shooting your attacker over at AOL’s Black Voices.


-JDH

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Ask a Very Smart Brotha: Professional Jumpoffs & Ex Love

Dear Very Smart Brotha,

I am a 30 year old woman with two jobs, a marketing degree, my own place and vehicle and most importantly no kids and I am single! Why I have no clue  why I’m single and its making me sick. I tend to go towards men that are inaccessible. Meaning, they don’t have time to spend, they don’t have time to build anything etc.  Now in reading that list of top 10 things that can keep me single, I can safely say that I have none of those traits.

In a nut shell here is how it goes. I meet a guy, we may go out on a couple dates, have a couple of phone conversations and then it will get physical. Sex will be great, the convos get better, spend some more time and then all of a sudden, everything will goes to sh*t.  I have had several men tell me they loved me or were falling in love and then turn around and basically spit in my face. Am I a professional jump off and didn’t know about that? I try to notice the signs and open the lines of communication as often as possible. I play my position as to not seem to needy and clingy and still nothing. What am I doing wrong? Am I just destined to be alone and have a lifetime supply of AA batteries? What do I have to do for a man to want to be with me?

-Confused in Charlotte

 

Dear Confused in Charlotte,

Ah yes. The curious case of the profoundly successful and perpetually single black woman. I can even imagine the intro to the Nightline profile they’d have about you.

***Voice of somber sounding white man***

30 year old Advertising guru “Confused in Charlotte” seems to be living the American dream. With a marketing degree, a downtown condo, and a head game better than Roxy Reynolds, she is what rapper ‘Drake’ would call, “Fancy Huh.” But, despite the fact that her hair is done, her nails are done, and everything is big — including her a$$ — Confused couldn’t find a man to save her life”

Although I don’t know a ton about you, we can go a long ways to solving your “problem” by just looking at your question. You said yourself that you tend to go after men who are inaccessible and unavailable. And, when they do finally find time in their impossibly busy schedules to take you to the Waffle House, you’re pumped and dumped and nexted.

First, I need to let you know that there’s no such thing as a too busy man. Wait, let me rephrase that. There’s no such thing as a too busy man…if that man is truly into you. Trust me, a guy could be scheduled to attend three jobs, a wake, a bar mitzvah, and appear on The Wheel of Fortune all on the same night, but if he’s truly digging you, he’ll find a way, any way, to find some time for you.

Anyway, your main issue seems to be that you’re getting close-bused. The “close-bus” is the male version of the “friend’s zone” – a phenomenon where guys use certain women as relationship place holders until they’ve either grown tired of them or just found someone “better.”

Lucky for you, there’s an easy way to ensure you’ll never be close-bused again. All you have to do is stop making yourself sexually and emotionally available to unavailable men. Ain’t no use in “playing your position” if that position keeps getting dogsh*t on your blouse. Plus, that sh*tty smell is scaring away any potential Prince Charmings.

Sincerely,

Damon Young (aka The Champ)


-JDH

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Guess The Victims Don't Matter? Creflo Dollar Orders Eddie Long's Former Church Members To "GO BACK"

"During services on Sunday, June 5, 2011, Creflo Dollar said that Eddie Long is "STILL saved!" and STILL going to heaven!" He also told former New Birth church members the following: "If you from that church that you know what I'm talkin' bout and you tryin' to join here I don't want you here! That is my friend! That is my brother in The Lord! And if you came from there, you get on back over there where you s'posed to be and do what you s'posed to be doin'!"" - YouTube's "NotYourTypicalNegro" and PimpPreacher.com


-JDH

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